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Topic: OT: Urgent Need for Prayer - Parental Kidnapping (4 msgs / 217 lines)
1) From: Lynne
Once again I'm writing to my homeroast family, with the desperate hope that
someone might be able to help. At this point we need a lawyer who knows
Maine and Massachusetts family law, or even just Maine law right now. At the
very least (actually, its the top of the list), I'm asking everyone who
prays, to pray, to ask their churches to pray to bring little Dylan back
home.
My sonís girlfriend has a little boy, Dylan - I consider him to be my
grandson (Iím his ĎBubbieí - you might remember me posting about him =
a long
time ago). Weíre in MA, sheís never been married, so in this state she =
has
automatic custody (and the child is a resident) after living here at least
six months. She moved back to MA when Dylan was three wks old.
Father is in Maine, with a history of drug use, but he (supposedly) cleaned
up his act. Theyíve had an informal agreement that Dylan visits up to a w=
k a
month (sometimes only a wkend).
Well, after his one wk visit, father decided to keep him (lying, of course).
Got the court up there involved, filing for custody (lying, saying he lives
w/him, but he never has!). After trying desperately to get legal help (she &
the rest of us - her extended support system - are all struggling in this
economy), we all went up to Maine on Friday. Itís actually out of their
jurisdiction, and although she was told to file a Motion to Dismiss (and
did), although they said she has every right to bring her child home, the
father would not even let her see Dylan. (Police refused to help w/out an
official court document telling them to do so - saying itís a family
matter!)
I saw the father - and believe me, he is on drugs. He looked AWFUL (but how
do we prove it?!)
Itís now a whole month that the poor little guy has been away from his ho=
me,
from his mom.
Weíre all sick with worry, no one has gotten much sleep. We used our last
dollars to go up there, and donít know where to turn. All legal help that
knows BOTH MA and ME law require thousands of dollars - in the meantime, a
childís life is at stake, and I fear that this low-life is going to cook =
up
some scheme that we might be unaware of.
As an aside, my son - I was so proud of him through all of this - kept his
cool, dressed casual-professional. He is a criminal justice major, will have
his Associates after this semester, and said that one of his instructors
told him to treat everyone as though you are in front of a judge at the
moment. The biological father, on the other hand, looked like a rap singer,
with his baggy, low riding pants, dangling jewelry, etc., (he actually
thinks heís going to become a famous rap singer, apparently). I don't want
anyone to think that I judge people on appearance, but this kid was really
acting like he thought he was a b#d-, and I was concerned that he'd
actually pull a knife.
Honestly, this has been one hell of a year. A dear friend died, my
ex-boyfriend (whom I was still very close to, as a friend - I really miss
talking to him) - he died, my ex-husband, father of my four kids, died a
painful death, and then my dear, sweet old guy, my dog, Shiloh, finally
couldn't hold on any longer, and I had to put him down. My biological
grandsonís mother took my grandson, Kiernan to Colorado in March (suppose=
dly
we'll see him at Christmas, but I am afraid to get my hopes up).
Now* this* is way too much. It is a parent's nightmare.
Please, please, please pray. Iíve researched and called just about everyo=
ne
I can think of. Hoping we have him back at his home soon. You canít imagi=
ne
the sad crying in the car on the way home on Friday.
Thanks to all -
Lynne
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2) From: raymanowen
Lynne, I really feel your pain. Your situation called to mind the Biblical
drama involving the two mothers and the disposition of the one surviving
infant boy between them. 1 Kings 3:16 - 27 is Solomon's wise solution.
You no doubt remember the story- all I can do is suggest you gain strength
and comfort from the Bible yourself. Otherwise, this far exceeds my poor
power to add or detract.
Cheers and best wishes, RayO, aka Opa!
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3) From: Lynne
RayO, you are absolutely right. Going to get my bible right now, as I've
exhausted trying to research the legal end of it! (I've also exhausted my
own strength at this point, too)
I definitely have thought of that passage many times. How could a father who
actually loves his child do this to him??? My Lord - he is torturing him,
making him stay away from his mom so long, from his home, from his security.
Lynne
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4) From: sci
Lynne,
I will lift Dylan up and all involved in this heartwrenching drama. It is
truly sad how justice is so hard to get and how it costs so much to get
legal help. People who try to do the right thing seem to always get into
trouble.
May God protect and provide,
Ivan
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Date: Sun, 31 Oct 2010 10:18:06 -0400
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Once again I'm writing to my homeroast family, with the desperate hope that
someone might be able to help. At this point we need a lawyer who knows
Maine and Massachusetts family law, or even just Maine law right now. At the
very least (actually, its the top of the list), I'm asking everyone who
prays, to pray, to ask their churches to pray to bring little Dylan back
home.
My son?s girlfriend has a little boy, Dylan - I consider him to be my
grandson (I?m his ?Bubbie? - you might remember me posting about him a long
time ago). We?re in MA, she?s never been married, so in this state she has
automatic custody (and the child is a resident) after living here at least
six months. She moved back to MA when Dylan was three wks old.
Father is in Maine, with a history of drug use, but he (supposedly) cleaned
up his act. They?ve had an informal agreement that Dylan visits up to a wk a
month (sometimes only a wkend).
Well, after his one wk visit, father decided to keep him (lying, of course).
Got the court up there involved, filing for custody (lying, saying he lives
w/him, but he never has!). After trying desperately to get legal help (she &
the rest of us - her extended support system - are all struggling in this
economy), we all went up to Maine on Friday. It?s actually out of their
jurisdiction, and although she was told to file a Motion to Dismiss (and
did), although they said she has every right to bring her child home, the
father would not even let her see Dylan. (Police refused to help w/out an
official court document telling them to do so - saying it?s a family
matter!)
I saw the father - and believe me, he is on drugs. He looked AWFUL (but how
do we prove it?!)
It?s now a whole month that the poor little guy has been away from his home,
from his mom.
We?re all sick with worry, no one has gotten much sleep. We used our last
dollars to go up there, and don?t know where to turn. All legal help that
knows BOTH MA and ME law require thousands of dollars - in the meantime, a
child?s life is at stake, and I fear that this low-life is going to cook up
some scheme that we might be unaware of.
As an aside, my son - I was so proud of him through all of this - kept his
cool, dressed casual-professional. He is a criminal justice major, will have
his Associates after this semester, and said that one of his instructors
told him to treat everyone as though you are in front of a judge at the
moment. The biological father, on the other hand, looked like a rap singer,
with his baggy, low riding pants, dangling jewelry, etc., (he actually
thinks he?s going to become a famous rap singer, apparently). I don't want
anyone to think that I judge people on appearance, but this kid was really
acting like he thought he was a b#d-, and I was concerned that he'd
actually pull a knife.
Honestly, this has been one hell of a year. A dear friend died, my
ex-boyfriend (whom I was still very close to, as a friend - I really miss
talking to him) - he died, my ex-husband, father of my four kids, died a
painful death, and then my dear, sweet old guy, my dog, Shiloh, finally
couldn't hold on any longer, and I had to put him down. My biological
grandson?s mother took my grandson, Kiernan to Colorado in March (supposedly
we'll see him at Christmas, but I am afraid to get my hopes up).
Now* this* is way too much. It is a parent's nightmare.
Please, please, please pray. I?ve researched and called just about everyone
I can think of. Hoping we have him back at his home soon. You can?t imagine
the sad crying in the car on the way home on Friday.
Thanks to all -
Lynne
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