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Topic: A Guest in Someone's Home (43 lines)
1) From: Mark Neuhausen
Regarding what some think of as inappropriate posts and others find a need
to monitor, I suggest that we think of this homeroast list as Tom and
Maria's house.  We are all welcome guests in their home.  And as a show of
respect for our hosts, we should try to make everyone feel welcome.  Tom and
Maria, as great people, have very wide diversity in their guests, including
liberals and conservatives, people from many countries, some people with
religious backgrounds, pretty much people from all walks of life.  Their
guests share at least one thing in common, an interest in really good
coffee.
I proffer that to show our respect for our hosts while in their home that we
adjust our behavior to ensure that everyone feels welcome.  If we don't like
their guests, we always have the option of not visiting anymore.  And if we
believe that one of the guests exhibited bad behavior, it is something best
left to the host.  We could have a private word with the host, but I don't
believe that it is our place to interpret what behavior our host deems
acceptable and not acceptable.  And if our hosts are upset at someone's
behavior and it is not corrected, they probably do not get future
invitations.
Enough for the analogy and I'll say it more straight forward.  I wish that
each of us would try to exhibit behavior that allows the open sharing of
coffee information and does not offend anyone who reads the list.  And we
may all occasionally err, but once we know that something upsets even one
person on the list, why can we not modify our behavior to be all inclusive?
I know it is a challenge.  What is very patriotic to one of us may be
offensive to another.  What is everyday language for another one of us may
be offensive to another.  But given how many people are able to modify their
behavior to make others feel comfortable at work or in their home compared
to how few people can roast really good coffee, I think that this should be
easy for each and every one of us.
Enough wasted electrons on this post.  And before you flame me, please
remember that I am the quiet, sensitive one in Tom and Maria's home and my
feelings are very easily hurt.
-Mark


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